Frustration (ADHD stuff)

A male friend of mine said once that I should just shape up and get things done. It's much more complicated living with ADHD. It's almost as if you automatically feel different from others, you have this constant feeling of not fitting in, at least I've had it my entire life. I guess that is why so many youngsters with ADHD is acting out in alternative ways, that can also be very self-destructive. A person with ADHD is much more likely to become a drug addict or a criminal, I have my mum to thank for not having gone down that road.

The boyfriend area - ADHD and romance is not an easy thing. It takes a lot from a person to have a relationship with an ADHD - person...so sad because we are desperate to be loved, to feel loved, but we never do.. because we are too demanding from our partner, when all we really want is the security that we need to feel to let go of the drama. 

I read what this woman wrote in a ADHD support website, and as I wrote it I got tears in my eyes, because I know exactly how she feels and this is exactly where I will be when I'm 53: 

"It's another Saturday night, and this one's hitting harder than usual. Just had a good cry. I hate feeling self-pity and making it so public, to boot. But this ADD problem has kicked my ass in every part of my life. There's a lot of grief that's up for me lately. I haven't been able to succeed in any field. Chronic humiliation caused a lot of social anxiety, so that at almost 53, I'm still single. Friendships have dissipated over time (I think because my life is so outside the mainstream), and I'm flat broke.People who meet me usually like me. I'm kind, caring, intelligent, and creative. I'm just so frustrated that I'm so alone. It's hard to join community activities hoping to meet new people, when I'm not feeling good about my life. I don't want to feel helpless or get stuck in depression. But the loneliness and isolation is making me crazy."

Please note! ADD is ADHD without the hyperactivity, and I actually have ADD, not ADHD but the term ADHD is used for both ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder) and ADHD (Attention Deficit/Hyperactive Disorder).